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Every man in the world will get his fair share of chances to have rebound sex and most will jump right into it without much thought or question. Sometimes you regret it, and sometimes it ends up being the best thing that ever happened to you. Usually, thankfully, it is the former. Rebound sex is usually just about as good as it gets. It is a great way to relieve stress, anger and feel attractive after a breakup.
 
Technically, rebound sex is when a person who has just broken up from a relationship has sex with another person shortly after. It’s called rebound because you are rebounding or ricocheting from one person to another for sexual purposes. There are a lot of reasons it can be a good thing. The University of Missouri conducted a study showing rebound sex is a widely used coping mechanism for break-up situations. If you use it and its working for you, you’re not alone. One hundred seventy undergrads participated and 35% admitted to using rebound sex successfully within four weeks of a breakup. It is part of the healing process, according to licensed clinical social worker and sex therapist, Patricia Rich.

Rebound Sex Is Rational

Telling yourself you’re having rebound sex because of this reason or that is just rationalizing. You may have felt under appreciated or unloved. Perhaps you were feeling like a bad lover in your relationship or felt you couldn’t satisfy your lover. It could be that she was cruel or that you were together too long. Whatever the reason you will find one and make it right in your head. Rationalizations are the minds way of making everything manageable, of making it through another day. We all do it and we all need to.
 

Sex is Sexy

Leaving a relationship, for whatever reason, feels like failure. It sucks your self-esteem out and leaves you feeling like a wrung out sweat sock. A relationship break can also rob you of your sexual confidence. Where you once could jump into bed fully confident of the results, your left with a vague sense of unease. Having a new sexual experience is always exciting but having it when you feel your most unsexy is a big help. It’s like a big shot of sunshine when your fishing on a cloudy day. It makes everything just a little bit easier. You begin to remember that you are an attractive, desirable man and this was just another bump in the road. There is a reason for the old motto of the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.
 

No Better Distraction Than Rebound Sex

Just being in the company of another person can help take your mind off of the loneliness and other feelings your experiencing. Having sex with that person is an even bigger distraction. It takes your mind off not only the missing relationship but also the emotional baggage you’re carrying around. It gives you time to put the pain aside and concentrate on things that feel good, giving your thought patterns and feelings a much needed break from reality.
 
Rebound sex is also a great way to fill a void. You are used to having an intimate relationship. Holding, kissing, caressing and having sex are now out of your hands. Those lovely soft and tingly feelings are no longer at your fingertips. That isn’t necessarily true however, there is just a little more work involved. Once you find a willing partner, which usually takes nothing more than a trip to the local bar, all those good feelings come back. Its only temporary but its long enough to get your head together and carry you through another day.
 
Just the act of having sex in itself, can bring about feelings that will lift your spirits. Patricia Rich also stated that orgasm releases endorphins and neurotransmitters that elevate mood and make you feel a little better, similar to a work out or brisk walk.
 
As wonderful as rebound sex can be, there is also a downside. It isn’t a fix for anything. Having rebound sex does not automatically take all the pain and suffering away from you. It is only a temporary fix to an emotional problem you will have to take the time to figure out. You will have to invest in yourself emotionally and provide whatever else you need besides the sex to rebuild your emotional state. It won’t be easy, and some people even have to seek professional help. This is nothing to be ashamed of. No matter how long the relationship lasted, it can still leave lasting marks on your soul.
 
Rebound sex is a perfect short-term solution to a romantic breakup. It can heal your broken heart temporarily and give you a boost of courage and self-esteem. It is short-lived however and only a piece of the self-recovery mission.