Reasons Why Your Casual Sex Partner Hates Oral Sex
There are not many men who aren’t interested in the occasional, or the very frequent blow job. If you are having a hard time getting oral sex from your casual sex partner, it may be something that you are doing. Women may not absolutely love giving a guy oral sex, but they rarely dislike it to the point where they won’t throw you a bone (no pun intended). If you want to get head from your partner you have to figure out what the reasons are that she won’t go down on you. Think about the following reasons why she may hate oral sex with you and if they apply, change your ways.
Learn to keep your hands off
In this age of internet erotica, our thoughts about what is enjoyable is shaped by what we see. The problem is that most of the things that we view aren’t those things that women really enjoy. A woman isn’t really into having her head thrown around while giving head. If you are putting your hands on her head to guide her around, news flash, she probably knows what she is doing. Resist the urge to take a hands on approach and let her to what she does best.
A tap on the head is nice
Not many women are into swallowing. If she is kind enough to satisfy your needs with a blow job, you should be kind enough to give her the heads up before you explode on her. You should have some sort of signal that the end is near. If there is no understanding that swallowing will occur then that is the understanding. Unless otherwise specified assume that you need to give her the heads up before putting anything that she isn’t aware of in her mouth.
Selfishness is never good
If you want to get sometimes you have to give. If you are being selfish and never considering her needs or reciprocating, that is not going to foster an environment of giving on her part. It is important that if she is taking the time to focus on you, you take the time to do the same for her sometimes. Even if she is someone who isn’t into oral, there are other things that you can do to make her feel good. It is important that she feels that you are just as concerned about her as you are about you. If you don’t focus on her once in a while it will build resentment in her.
You aren’t trimming it up
What do you hate more than getting hair in your mouth, probably nothing, her either. If you are doing the special things to clean it up you aren’t showing her much concern. Having poor hygiene, or not doing the proper mancaping, can be a huge turn off to a woman. If you want her to go down on you, at least you can do the things that will make it more pleasurable for her. Take the time to put a little extra soap and attention into your private parts, if not for you then for her.
Taking forever
If it takes you forever to get off when you are getting oral it can get old very quickly. A woman doesn’t want to strain her neck for hours on end waiting for you to pop off. If it is taking you too long to get off than you have to find a way to change things so that it won’t take so long. Try not to focus too hard, or know when it is going to take too long and do something else that night. She doesn’t want to wake up feeling like she has whip lash.
You don’t express that you like it
A woman is not going to do something if she doesn’t know that you appreciate and like it. If you pretend that a blow job is not anything out of the ordinary, what purpose is she going to have to continue to do it for you. Let’s be honest, a blow job is just for your liking. Tell her you like it if that is what you want. Being direct is always the best approach here. Always be willing to return the favor though so she does not feel used.