Why Casual Sex Does Not Have To Be Perfect
There are many advantages to casual sex. One of them is that it need not be perfect. Sure, almost all casual sex is perfect simply because it is casual. The problem with sex in a relationship is that it gets all messed up with emotion and baggage. Casual sex is something that comes without any of the same hangups. There are times when having a sexual fling may not be the best sex you have ever had, but that doesn’t really matter, does it?
The reasons why casual sex is good no matter what…
Casual sex can be selfish
When you are in a relationship you have to worry about the other person. In a give and take relationship, if all you do is take, there won’t be much of a relationship. The beauty of a casual affair is that you don’t have to worry if you please the other person. If they aren’t pleased by your performance, or the sex, it is no skin off of your back. You don’t have to worry about any reprisal, or continuing sexual relations. It is a one-time deal where the goal is to gain as much gratification as you can. That takes the stress off of worrying about whether the other person is satisfied. What that translates into is sheer fulfillment for just you, and it being for pure animalistic and enjoyment purposes.
Procreation is not an issue
When you are in a relationship there is a right time to procreate and a not so good time. If you are having disagreements about commitments such as marriage, or children, there is a constant struggle that can ensue. That means you constantly have to worry about either trying to, or not, to get pregnant. With casual affairs there is the assumption that no one wants to have offspring. The purpose of the casual affair is purely pleasure. There is no hidden agenda, or manipulation. There is just one thing in mind and that is orgasm. Casual affairs have no strings attached in anyway what-so-ever.
Pure excitement
When you are in a relationship there will inevitably come a time when it gets a little stale. No matter what you try to do to keep it real and exciting, it just won’t last forever. The beauty of a casual affair is that it is exciting every time. Even if the sex itself is not the best you have ever had, you know that if nothing else, it will always be spontaneous. There is something very exciting about being with someone you have never been with before. You never know what to expect, or what they are going to do. That is the best part of a casual affair. The sheer unknown of how it is going to feel, or end.
No performance anxiety
You never have to worry about impressing the other person. It isn’t as if they are going to leave you, or break up with you, if it isn’t the best. There is no pressure to pull out all the stops. If you want to last two minutes, you can do so. After all, what are they going to do about it? Since the whole definition of casual sex is one time in and out, there is no worry about the relationship not continuing. It is probably not going to anyway. Therefore, you just get to enjoy it. Be it two minutes, or two hours, when you want it to be over, you just end it and move on.
No guilt involved
When you have sex in a relationship you are left worrying about whether the other person enjoyed it. You worry about whether you thought enough about pleasing them, if you did the right thing and what you could have done better. The minute that you are finished with casual sex, it is over. There aren’t any residual feelings of guilt, remorse, or regret. You did what you did. If you enjoyed it, fantastic, if you didn’t, it’s over so what do you care? You don’t have to carry away anything from the act besides the glow of the orgasm you achieved.