Situations When It’s OK for Your Sex Buddy to Spend the Night
Everyone has dreamed of having a NSA, or no-strings-attached, relationship, but it rarely turns out the way they think it will. Sex buddy relationships aren’t always easy. Most people think if you are fortunate enough to have this type of relationship in your life, it’s all easy street. Not true. Just like any situation in life, there can be complications. (Read 5 Unbendable Rules Of A Casual Relationship Here) One problem that continually arises in a sex buddy relationship is when it is OK to spend the night together. It is a touchy area. No one wants to hurt the other or get their feelings hurt. There are really only five situations when it is perfectly fine for your sex buddy to spend the night.
Emergencies Happen
Sometimes shit happens. That is just a fact of life. There are moments in life that are unavoidable, such as car problems and flat tires, acts of nature and others things. When something like that occurs, it is perfectly fine to let her sleep over. How heartless would you seem if you didn’t invite her to crash on your couch in her time of need? You would be lacking in the buddy part of your sex buddy relationship.
Your Falling for Her
If you find that the two of you are falling for each other, spending the night together is the next rational step. This is where it can get tricky. Make sure you aren’t misreading her signs and that she knows exactly where you’re coming from or what started out as a fun and friendly relationship will turn to a nightmare. This kind of situation isn’t as uncommon as one might think. After all, the experts say the best romantic relationships begin as friendships. Yours just has an extra perk. You have already built a strong friendship and taken the next step to intimacy without the emotion. It would be easier than ever to catch feelings for this girl considering all the history you have together. Evaluate the situation and how your feeling fully before allowing an all-nighter.
The Fun Never Stops
If you have ever had one of those nights where the music never stops and your dancing the night away, you know what I’m talking about here. Cocktails, socializing, parties and night clubs can all lead to a night that doesn’t seem to end. You’re at party one minute and then a club the next. After that you find yourself at a trendy bar and then an all-night café. When you end up with your sex buddy and the party keeps going long into the night when suddenly you notice the sun has come up and it is tomorrow. That OK, too. After all, the night hasn’t officially ended for you two. The question here becomes what happens when the fun ends. Does she shower at your place and snuggle up to sleep the afternoon away or does she dress, pour a Styrofoam cup of coffee and head to her own place?
The Fun Stopped Unexpectedly
On the other hand, maybe you are both out for the time of your lives. A celebration for something special, or a big occasion can easily be a situation where you can drink too much and party too hard. The next thing you know, you and your sex buddy are waking up together the next morning with foggy heads, blurry vision and cotton mouth. This is a perfect instance of shit happens. It wasn’t planned. You were going at it, having some of the best sex of your lives but you just feel so comfortable with her it was easy to slip off to sleep after all was said and done. It’s also possible you passed out from excess alcohol consumption. Whichever the case. It happens.
When you are actually in one of these sex buddy relationships you finally understand the vast array of emotions that go to play in an environment everyone thinks is simply fun and frolic. If she is always spending the night lately, you need to stop and think. As in all life’s relationships, emotions can make sticky situations even sticker. When you feel like things are progressing more toward a real romantic relationship than a sex buddy thing, it’s time to take stock of what’s going on in your mind and heart and see if the agree. The next step is to ensure she is feeling the same way. Here’s the point where you make the move to greener pastures, either alone or with a new girlfriend.
Keep in mind that whichever way things turn out after she spends the night, it’s always a beginning, never an ending. It is a new section in your life to explore so get out there and make it happen.