8 reasons you should never tell your casual sex partner “I love you”
Casual sex, by definition, is sex without emotions, without feelings and without commitment. No strings attached. Men, by nature, are better at casual sex than women, who tend to develop feelings for whomever they sleep with. Many of us seem to have an innate ability to pick the perfect casual sex partners. When we see someone we would sleep with but never get serious with, we know it. We chose our casual sex partners on one basis only; hotness. If we are physically attracted to her, that is all that matters in the casual sex game. We don’t care if she is intelligent, funny or kind. We don’t care because we aren’t in love. It’s casual. Casual sex is not love and you never tell your casual sex partner you love her for several reasons. Below I am going to explain the top 8 reasons why you should never ever ever tell your sex buddy, friend with benefits, F-buddy, casual sex partner or whatever name you may choose to call her “I Love You”
1. The end is near
Once you tell her you love her it is over. It isn’t casual anymore. Sometimes you are having so much fun with a gal that you want her to know your loving every minute of it. As long as you don’t say those dreaded three words, you will be fine. Tell her any other way you’d like. Just don’t say “I love you” unless you are ready for the relationship to end.
2. Sizzle Killer
Saying “I love you” puts a huge damper on the thrill of a casual sexual relationship. Casual sex is about the sex, the thrill of having nothing with this person but an unadulterated passion for each other is hot. The shivers you get when you see her, the rush of adrenaline when you touch, and the passion that courses through your veins when you know she is on her way to you will all dry up.
3. Friendships Turn to Mush
There is a term that is applied to friends who also sleep together. “Fuck Buddy” is a coveted relationship that involves casual sex with someone you like, party with and hang out with occasionally. No love, no commitments, just fun and sex. Once love and emotion enters the picture, you not only lose your friend but your fuck buddy as well. No fun.
4. Trust Breaker
We have discovered men are better at casual sex than women but if you have found a great casual sex partner, crossing the line with an “I love you” can break her trust. She is in this kind of relationship for her own reasons. If she wanted to be in a romantic, long-term relationship, she would be. She trusts you to stay the course you began and not rock the boat. Don’t let her down.
5. It Muddies the Water
When you started this sexcapade you both knew what you wanted and were ready to take it. Changing the rules in the middle of the game ruins it for everyone. She will start to question your motives and what you are after in the long-run.
6. What if?
So what happens if you say it and she says it back? Now what? Suddenly you’re in a relationship when just two seconds before you were a fun and freewheeling single. A ton of questions now come up as well as. Everything changes and no one knows where to start to get things back to normal.
7. Reality is an Illusion
You may not know this girl as well as you think you do, if you even think you know her well. The type of relationship you are engaged in is about fun and excitement. The only time you are with her, you’re having a good time. She’s fun, sexy, witty and exciting. You don’t know what she is like outside of this casual, fun relationship. Telling her you love her can open a whole can of worms you know nothing about.
8. Fatal Attraction
This one goes along with number seven. Ever see the movie Fatal Attraction? Glen Close and Michael Douglas start a casual affair during a business trip. They have fun, they frolic, they have plenty of sex and just a little, they bond. Once he tries to end the affair and go home to the wife and kiddo, she flips her lid and ends up boiling his daughters pet rabbit and hiding out in the family shower. Yea, you don’t want to go there.
If you chose to have a casual sex relationship, keep it that way. Taking it to that next step by saying “I love you” can be detrimental to both of you.