How to use your girlfriend’s friends to get on her good side
Every once in a blue moon you meet a woman who doesn’t have any close women friends. The type of woman who prefers the company of men in even the most platonic of friendships are rare finds. There is male companion in any situation. These types of relationships are a lot of fun. A girlfriend who is unencumbered by female friends constantly giving advice, opinions and stirring the proverbial pot of trouble is a girlfriend who presents far less chance of trouble. However, that seldom happens. There is always that troublesome, nosey friend that causes problems where there were none before. Thankfully, there are ways to turn those situations into something positive.
Compliments
Women love compliments. It’s a fact of life. The more complimentary you are the better off you’ll be. There are a few tricks to this little relationship hack though. First, you must be flirty. Being complimentary is a big difference in being a flirt. Giving off the feeling that your flirting can cost you the relationship your trying to save. The other trick to remember is to be sincere. Don’t tell her she’s super skinny if she’s overweight. Don’t expound on the virtues of her vocabulary if she has only managed to string together a few trite and trendy phrases. Be real and keep it clean and your well on your way to getting the girlfriend approval stamp.
Inclusion
Including your girlfriend’s friends is a sure fire way to win her heart. Do not take this tip to mean you must drag around a girl posse everywhere you go for the duration of the relationship. It just means that every once in a while you pay their way into the club, take them to your girl’s favorite concert or the next pub crawl. See A List of the best Pub Crawls in the US A gesture like this means a lot to a woman. She sees you trying to include her friends and all that entails. Take just one or two days a month and allow her to include her friends on your events out. You will be surprised by the amount of brownie points it really gets you.
Who is the Closest?
One important thing you’ll have to discover when working her girlfriends to your favor is who is closest to her. Who is her bestie? The BFF? Which one does she call every day and who knows the most about her? Once you know which friend is the closest to her, you know who has her ear. It is the advice from that woman that will mean the most to her. Therefore, that is the woman you want to think the most highly of you. That doesn’t mean kowtow to her or to take any guff. It simply means to keep her station in your girlfriend’s life in mind.
Open Up
Don’t be afraid or too uptight (Are you too uptight – take the quiz) to open up to her friends just as you would your own. If you’re not a real “open up” kind of guy, just be you. If you talk sports with your boys, chat it up with the girls. You never know who is interested. If you just read a great article in the john at work, mention the title and give a quick synopsis. It’s a conversation starter and will get the comfortable feeling rolling between you all. Share a little bit about your hobbies and past times. Let them see a bit of the real you and it will help you out in the long run.
Express Your Love
There is nothing a woman likes more than a man who isn’t afraid to show his romantic side. They love to see their best friends being treated like a princess. From a young age women are taught what kind of man they should be looking for. Experiencing a true love type romance through the eyes of their best friends is a bonding experience for women. Show them their friend is being well cared for and they will appreciate you for it.
Respect
It isn’t just an Aretha Franklin song. VIDEO: Watch Aretha Franklin Perform Respect Respect goes a long way with a girl’s friends. One thing men often have a hard time understanding is that no matter how slutty a friend is, if your girl doesn’t want to do something, she won’t. It doesn’t do any good to try to denigrate or disrespect any friend you feel is a bad influence. Always be supportive and let your girl do the complaining. She knows her better than you ever can and if anything needs to be addressed, let her do it.
There is one thing you must keep in mind before employing any of these tips. You may find that they work too well and one of these girlfriends will end up falling in love with you. If you notice she is sending flirty messages or any type of conversation your girlfriend is not privy too, it could mean big trouble.