How To Go From The Friend Zone To Sex Buddy
Ah. The friend zone. That notorious imaginary area code where all the horny guys with good intentions live. It isn’t such a bad place, really. You can have fun. There are girls there. The only problem is it is a sex-free zone. When you mention sex to the gal who has friend-zoned you, you hear less than sexy things like “I enjoy your friendship so much, let’s not ruin it”, “I’m not looking for a boyfriend. Let’s just be friends”, and of course, “I just came out a relationship. I need to concentrate on myself. Let’s keep it as a friendship. O.K.?”. The good news is there is a way to get out of the dreaded friend zone and into the warm and cuddly sex buddy area code.
In order to get out of the friend-zone, you have to know what put you there in the first place. This is assuming she was ever attracted to you. If you truly believe she was, then you are the one who put yourself in the friend zone and you will have to be the one to get yourself out. Sparks flew when you met her but still, here you are. There is only one reason for that, inaction. You fumbled. Very few men realize this, but there is a slim window of opportunity to make your move before she benches you in the friend zone. Once the sparks fly, you have roughly 20 or so cumulative hours to make her flip for you.
Once you admit you’re in the friend zone, the next step is figuring out just exactly what that means to her. Depending on the workings of your relationship, she could see you as a sibling, parent, therapist, a back-up date or the equivalent of her best girl cousin. Take a look at yourself and your relationship from her point of view. Once you know how you appear to her, you can figure out a course of action to change all that. It is also the time to show her how much fun you are. You don’t want her to think of you as her shoulder to cry on. These aren’t the days for carry-out Chinese and a Bridget Jones marathon. Be up for anything. Pub crawls to bike marathons, it is time to show your stuff.
Once you have established how much fun you are its time to move onto the next step. Make your move, buddy. The time has come. Pussy-footing around in the first place is what got you in the friend zone. Don’t waste any time getting out. While you’re out having a blast, singing karaoke, drinking Mojito’s at the local bar, grab her around the waist and sing that last refrain looking deep in her eyes with that sexy glint you’ve gotten so good at. It might be the right time to give her a little squeeze and bring her in for a quick hug, grazing her ear with a little warm breath. If she looks back at you with half a smile and a questioning expression, it’s all gravy after that. You’ve got her, hook, line and sinker. All you have to do is reel her in.
Prepare for the right moment by predicting all the different ways she could react and all the possible (and probable) questions coming your way. Decide how you will react and prepare your answers. When the moment occurs, you’ll appear cool, calm and collected. When you feel like she is appreciating the level of fun you bring to the table and that the two of you get along so well and she feels that little different look you’ve been giving her, it’s time to make your move. He move you make can be a subtle as a well-placed racy comment, an intimate touch, a suggestive dance, or as bold as a kiss. Now is also a great time to change up your look a little or start showing off your assets that she’s never noticed. Pump up your biceps and buy a new cologne. Once she starts looking at your attitude in a different way, it’s only a matter of time until she looks at your physique in a different way. You want it to be a good way.
It is possible to get out of the friend zone. The important thing is to learn a lesson and never let another woman friend-zone you again. Often, a guy gets friend-zones, not only for inaction but for.