How To Avoid Awkward Moments After Casual Sex
Casual sex is great in almost every way. The freedom to explore without the restraints of emotional connection, the pure focus on pleasure over everything else, the ability to delve into more fetishistic desires, etc. Those are all great things. What’s not always great is the moments after the casual sex. Sometimes that can be nothing but awkwardness and sometimes it leads to bad decisions, like getting up to leave as fast as possible and making the girl feel like a prostitute. That’s a bad move that could have been avoided if you knew how to handle the awkwardness better.
The awkward moments after casual sex tend to come from the steady stream of thoughts running through your head. Was I good? Did she have a good time? Did she orgasm? Did I last long enough before cumming? Should I ask her if she wants to stay the night? Can we do it again a little later? What will we have for breakfast in the morning? Each reaction is perfectly natural and almost certain to happen each and every time you have casual sex. They lead to awkward moments because you don’t really know the girl you just had sex with so you have no idea what she’s thinking.
We need to combat those awkward moments to make the casual sex better. If you’re worried about what’s going to happen after you have sex you’ll never have as much fun as you could. The performance issue is number one on the list of awkwardness creators so let’s deal with it. Don’t ever ask the girl if she had an orgasm. No matter her answer she’s going to feel like you weren’t paying attention or that you’re simply not connected, which is never good. Plus, if she faked an orgasm she’ll have to lie to your face about it, which she doesn’t want to do. You need to teach yourself to be confident about your performance. Unless she’s openly unhappy about the whole thing you’ll have to assume she had a good time. If you plan on having sex with her again then you can bring up her experience later. The next day, the next week, etc. Doing it in the moment, when she’s unlikely to be in a good place to think, is a terrible idea.
Many of the awkward moments after casual sex can be avoided or quickly resolved by being both resolute and flexible. I’ll explain. Some guys worry about the sleeping arrangements with their casual sex partner. Will she stay over? Should you stay over if you’re at her place? You know what you want in those situations, even if you’re wishy washy about it. Feel free to let her know what you want. In other words, be resolute. At the same time, if she wants something different then be flexible. If you express a desire to stay and she says she has to get up early for work then put your pants on and head out. Don’t think about what it means or assume that she didn’t have a good time. Take her at her word and move on with your life.
Casual sex can and should be a universally enjoyable experience and it should help build your confidence each time you do it. The great thing is that the more casual sex you have the less awkward moments there will be. As your confidence grows through sexual experience you’ll know what you want and be unafraid to ask for it. If you want her to stay the night then you’ll just say it. If she wants to leave you’ll have no problem with that because there’s always another casual sex partner. Trust that the more you try it the more fun you’ll have and the more confident you’ll be.