The Future Of Pick Up Artists (PUA)
The PUA (pick up artist) became a cultural phenomenon in 2005 when a book titled The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists was published and became a best seller. It gave readers an inside look at a culture of men that had made the act of seducing and sleeping with women into an art form. The book detailed what seemed to most like a fairly strange subset of guys and it was that strangeness combined with their undeniable success that made it such a bestseller. Since that time the lingo of the PUAs has been incorporated into the culture and the lifestyle has become something of a joke.
Back then the pickup artist was, if not revered then at least marveled at for his skill in convincing women to sleep with him despite seeming not particularly attractive in the normal ways. The man featured most in the book was known for dressing like a bit of a madman and acting in ways that would seem to repel women and yet he would consistently bring a lady home at the end of the night, making him a pickup artist in the truest sense of the world. In the past seven years pick up artists (PUA) have come to be seen as a joke, as desperate men that can’t form real relationships and turn to silly tricks to succeed in the bedroom.
It’s likely that the men featured in the book and those that pursue the purest form of the PUA lifestyle do have what psychologists would call intimacy issues. If you loath a relationship and simply want to sleep with one woman after the next and if you treat women like objects to be played with and amuse you more than you treat them like humans it seems safe to assume that you do indeed have issues with intimacy that you might want to address.
However, those types of guys only make up a small portion of what pick up artists have become. The true impact of the pick up artists lifestyle is greater confidence in men, which benefits everyone. Women almost always say the most attractive thing in a man is confidence and in reality PUA is all about having confidence. The guys that create a heavy facade are really just generating confidence for themselves by playing a character that allows them to step out of their reality and into another where they can be what a girl wants. If there’s one thing you should learn from pick up artists it’s that confidence is key.
Nowadays you can attend pick up artist (PUA) conventions around the world and learn the tricks of the trade, although they have shifted away from the more theatrical elements talked about in the book to concentrating on how to build confidence in a man. The truth is, if you’re confident you will be able to find a woman to sleep with you as long as you don’t look like a terrible troll. Essentially, you have complete control over whether or not you get laid. You can work out and eat right and get into great shape so even if you’re not a good looking man you’ll still find a steady stream of sexual partners willing to play. If you choose to be fat and flabby and you choose to shy away from meeting women and you choose to exude a total lack of confidence then you’ll find that women aren’t interested in you. In the future every man should take notes from the pick up artists and create a confident version of himself that will eventually become the real him. Fake it ëtil you make it, in other words.