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Everyone lies, and your casual sex partner is no different. That fact has been established time after time in one study after another. There are a variety of reasons people lie and some don’t need a reason at all. Most people, however, tell lies for good reasons. At least, what they believe to be good reasons. We call these white lies and everyone does it in some form or another. Women have a few white lies they can’t stop themselves from using in times of stress and anxiety. While the purpose is to relieve stress, these white lies always cause more. So it is a good idea to familiarize yourself with these 5 little white lies all casual sex partners tell and be able to defuse them on sight.

I want your honest opinion

This lie has a few criteria. If you are talking about your relationship, she is telling the truth. She wants your honest opinion. In most other instances, if you hear her say these words, it’s a big fat lie. For instance, she is trying on clothes and puts on a dress you hate. She never asked your opinion on all the ones you liked. This one, though, she does. Does she really want your honest opinion? Does she really want to know it makes her tummy roll look prominent and her arms are kind of floppy? No. She doesn’t want to know that. This is a particularly hard situation to maneuver whether she is a casual sex partner or a long term relationship. You don’t want to hurt her but you don’t want to lie either. But you have to. You don’t tell her your honest opinion. You tell her it looks fine and you agree with whatever she says.

It’s OK. I’m fine

No, no she isn’t. If you have been sleeping with her for any length of time at all you know the signs when she has a bug up her butt about something. This is also a tricky situation. You may be tempted to ignore the signs and let her sort out her feelings. Sometimes this is actually a good idea but no always. She may take it as a sign that you don’t care. Another route to take is to ask her what’s wrong and when she says she is fine, believe her. Tell her that you only asked because something seems wrong and you can’t read her mind. After that, the ball is in her court. You tried.

I’ve Slept with __ Men in my Life

Lie. A gigantic lie. No woman ever tells the true number of men she has slept with in her life, especial the woman you are having casual sex with. Click Here to learn what is an “average” number of sex partners. There really is no reason to discuss this in the first place. Nothing good can come from this conversation. If by some stroke of bad luck, you end up with this discussion hanging between you just know that whatever number she gives you is a lie. It’s a much, much larger number.

I came. You’re the Best Lover Ever

Don’t you believe it for a minute. Women do not reach orgasm as quickly as men do and even if you are having regular casual sex with her and think you are the best she has ever had. It takes much longer and much more attention to detail to bring a woman to climax. They know most men aren’t aware of this. Instead of getting pissed that you didn’t get them off, they just shrug it off and tell you they did. Try not to take it personally. A whole lot of men are not aware of the mysterious ways of the female orgasm. All you can do is realize you aren’t cutting the mustard and bone up on some instruction manuals.

I Totally Love Sports

This one may or may not be a lie and there may be a differentiation between what you define as a love of sports and what constitutes a love of sports to her. Read why men like sports more than women. She may enjoy watching the game because you get two for beers and .10 cent wings. She may love to watch the game because it reminds her of her dad/brother/college but none of that means she really has a love for the sport. She may also just be telling a big fat lie. She may not like sports or even understand them, but will tell you she does to gain some brownie points. Why women do this is a mystery. We can tell if you don’t know a field goal from a touchdown and it isn’t hard.

Everyone lies. When your casual sex partner tells these little white lies, they do not intend malice or harm. It is simply a way of getting through the day with as little emotional damage as possible. Does it make them bad people? Does it make you bad to tell the white lies you do? Nope. Now that you know these small stretches of the truth women tell, use it to your advantage.